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The Parents

Like me, my dad, Dan Gould, started to have a lot of questions around third grade. I was interested in space, and he was interested in dinosaurs, but how did those things exist if God created heaven and earth, and how did Adam and Eve and the dinosaurs all exist at the same time? So he stopped going to church.
Since then, he’s asked other questions. Like, why does his dad all of a sudden have a disdain for the World Health Organization when before COVID he had never had a problem with it? Or why can’t people and small towns use their critical thinking skills to unravel themselves from the chains of conservative talk radio?
Growing up in Three Rivers, Michigan, my dad’s town was racially diverse and was dominated by a blue-collar, working- class attitude. It stemmed from the presence of the United Auto Workers Union, which his grandfather was involved in. Three Rivers wasn’t necessarily left- leaning, but the union presence created a Democratic voter bloc. But politics were never talked about.
Even when he went to college at Bradley University in Peoria, Illinois, politics were never talked about. He didn’t know the ways that a lot of his friends and family leaned until Donald Trump.
“We had no phones,” he said. “There was no social media. Politics were never even really discussed. I didn’t know if any of my friends were progressive or not.”
His first time voting was for Clinton in 1992, when he was a senior in college. It was an exciting time for Democrats after eight years of Ronald Reagan and four years of George H.W. Bush. But my dad’s main focus was on college, unlike now, where my generation’s main focuses are college and the anxiety-inducing, upcoming presidency of Trump.
“It’s a lot more politically charged now than it was back then,” dad said. “People weren’t nuts like they are now. I didn’t know any of my friends were progressive or not. I just thought we were all the same.”
Now, he’s well aware that the political alignment he thought was there simply isn’t, specifically within our family.
“To think that I was brought up and taught certain morals and values and beliefs that not everybody in my family apparently holds, it’s heartbreaking,” he said.
He attributes these differing beliefs partially to his undergraduate education, where he studied economics, but also to the conservative, religious talk radio that pushes misinformation to conservative-leaning, rural communities like those his family lives in.
“Rush Limbaugh pretty much started it, and that’s what everybody in small towns hears,” he said. “All they got was either religion or conservative radio. Even to this day, if you drive from Kansas to Michigan, that’s all you hear on the radio.”
My dad has since been able to escape the small-town, conservative bubble. Growing up, he says people used to define themselves politically as “socially liberal but fiscally conservative.” Now, he doesn’t see that making any sense.
“The last time we had a balanced budget was with Bill Clinton, who was a Democrat. And you know there hasn’t been a Republican president that has lowered the deficit in our lifetime. So, you’re not really a good fiscal conservative.”